The Story

How parental alienation destroyed a father & son relationship at the hands or Sarah King & Margaret and my final letter into the family courts.

As we head towards a final hearing, CAFCASS fail Sonny, along with every other professional instructed in the court proceedings

Wishing my little lad, although he's now 21, a Happy Birthday x

How Drs. played their part in a parental alienation court hearing. They do their work & take their money but they add little value for child

Here details an initial attempt by CAFCASS to resolve parental alienation. Their intentions were good initial but they ultimately failed.

Parental Alienation in my words, how I see if effect people and my obvious hope that Sonny never experiences it.

How we attended mediation with a view to resolving the parental alienation of Sonny without the involvement of the family courts or CAFCASS.

How I had to start the second round of family court proceedings with Sonny's Mum Sarah to force her to allow us to see Sonny again.

The day Sonny left and we have never seen him again.

How things can go wrong quickly and how parental alienation plays a key role un ensuring matters always remain unresolved.

How quickly things can change after such a positive period and how indirectly parental alienation can creep back in.

Parental Alienation is driven by negativity, it's awash with people who refuse to see a positive approach to child welfare.

Sarah reneged immediately on our court agreement but there was nothing I could do - I hac to live with it.

Father's Day another day lost and another memory missed due to parental alienation

How we came to our agreement at court on how best to proceed with the contact arrangements for Sonny.

Grandparent Alienation and the impact it has on innocent grandparents who just want to love their grandchild.

After the my first contact with Sonny for such a long time I was keen to see him more and more and more – any parent who isn’t actively...

The day had arrived, the 4th of March 2006 - after such a long time of not being allowed to see Sonny I was now only a matter of hours...

Within a couple of weeks of my meeting with CAFCASS I unexpectedly heard back from them. I knew that they were due to meet with Sarah shortly after my meeting however I didn't expect to hear from them again until their report findings were put before the courts at the next hearing. It would appear that the CAFCASS officer was being pro active. He called me to discuss what the developments were. For me it was good news, for Sarah and Margaret I suspect not so - they were losin

19 years ago today I sat in the waiting room while your Mum gave birth to you. It's a day I'll never forget Sonny x We hope you have a...

So, the day had finally arrived – Me and Sarah were going to battle it out at great financial and emotional cost in a court room adjudicated by people that didn’t know us or Sonny. What a complete mess it had eroded too. None of this was my choice - In the blue corner the Dad, wanting to see to his son. Wanting his son to have a Dad. Wanting his son to have and Auntie, a Nana a Granddad. And in the red corner, Sarah, Margaret and Ken wanting the opposite. Didn’t want Sonny to

After my initial attempts to get the legal process moving had come to a shuddering halt I was in a really difficult position. In all...

So, whilst I knew from the outset of Sarah becoming pregnant with Sonny would see me in court chasing Sarah for a court order, the reality of it came a bit sooner than I thought it would have done. Sonny was born in Autumn of 2004 and by early 2005 it was game over. As far as Sarah was concerned Sonny was hers and I’d tried everything to keep her on side but solicitors and courts ts was destined to be, I made arrangements to see a solicitor in Manchester, to get everything m

So, as above – who wants to follow rules when it comes to being able to see your son or Grandson. Most people will struggle with it but we have to grit our teeth and get on with it. This is what we had to do. Sarah made it clear to us our relationship with Sonny was going to be strictly controlled from the beginning. Obviously this is not a natural environment to have a positive and loving relationship with a child but this is what we had to accept. When these rules were appl

So, I often wonder about the reality of the situation Sarah and Margaret harvested. The manipulation of a child, the leverage of lazy incompetent family courts, the upset, the trauma - parental alienation. Have they ever imagined...... This post dates back to the early 70's and involves my uncle. At the time he was married to his then wife and everything was normal, relationship was fine and they were expecting their first child together. They had a little baby girl (my cousi

Not a very manly thing to say and I've never talked about this to anyone but when you have you child took off you it leaves an emptiness in the pit of your gut. A strange feeling, almost like you can't get your breath, like you can't quite satisfy your breathing, like you're heart is beating irregularly. When I sat to build this post today, it wasn't meant to be this one - there is a long list of post's for upload and this was potentially one of them but I wasn't sure if I co

So, even though my intuition told me it would not be healthy to remain in the relationship with Sarah, during 2004 we did try to work...

The root cause of all the problems we've encountered has a simple answer to it but was never simple to resolve. Like all relationships some are made to last and some aren't - the relationship with Sarah and I just wasn't meant to be. We were together for around 2 and a half years, it stumbled on towards the end but that was basically the time scale. That period also includes the pregnancy with Sonny. We both knew that the relationship had become too fractious and during that

I will begin to document the journey we took through the courts to establish and maintain contact with Sonny. This will be documented over several posts and broken down into various parts. As Sonny's Dad I knew from the very first second that Sarah told me she was pregnant that we would end up in court. Did i think that by the time Sonny was 18 that he wouldn't have spoken to us for nearly 10 years, no I didn't that but what happened at court came as no surprise in how Sarah

Of course they did, or they think they did - They achieved what they set to achieve from the moment Sarah fell pregnant. That being said - it was a hollow victory. Did they get back at me for ending the relationship with Sarah? Yes they did. Did they get back at Sonny's paternal grandparents for not isolating me because they wouldn't force me to stay in the relationship? Yes they did Yep, and that's their victory which I'm sure that gives them a great deal of satisfaction. Ho

Since the day Sonny left I never stopped thinking about him. I think when somebody says this about another person it's hard for that other person to actually get a feeling of what that means. When I was young boy my Dad used to say that everyday when he's at work he'd be thinking about me. I used the think 'why'? I could never understand it - it's only when you become a parent do you think like that. I cannot ever count the amount of times I have woke up at 2am thinking abou

On the 03/02/2022 I sent Sonny an email to his address letting him know about the site. The reason I sent it was that I wanted him to be aware of the site, I thought it was only right. Unsurprisingly he didn't respond, he never does and hasn't to any of our communication since September 2016. That said I'm sure he's got the message about the site which is the most important thing as I didn't want anyone to tell him they had seen it before he was aware. I didn't go into detail

When I was first told that Sarah was pregnant with Sonny did I think that in 2021 I'd be building a website to tell the truth around the parental alienation we'd have endured by Sarah and her parents? The answer would be no to a website but yes to the parental alienation. Why build a site? The answer is simple. We as his family have been devastated by the effects of what Sarah, and Margaret in particular, did to our relationships with Sonny. Therefore our reputation needs to