Contacting Sonny

Since the day Sonny left I never stopped thinking about him. I think when somebody says this about another person it's hard for that other person to actually get a feeling of what that means. When I was young boy my Dad used to say that to me, he used to say everyday when he's at work he's be thinking about me. I used the think 'why'? I could never understand it - it's only when you become a parent do you think like that.

I cannot ever count the amount of times I have woke up at 2am thinking about Sonny then lying in bed for hours and hours just thinking about him. When you lose a child this is what happens. In our case we've grieved for Sonny like Sarah and her parents grieved for Simon who died - it's just in our case Sonny is still here,

Many times over the years I've tried to contact Sonny and tell him how much we love and miss him. As parent who has had their child taken form them you don't know what to say. You really want to tell them the truth but I think why should he have to take the emotional weight of realising what his Mum and Margaret did, removing his family witout him knowing what they were doing. That was when he was younger but he's 19 this year so he's old enough now to understand,

Having sent messages telling him about how much we care and think about him we never get a response. The last message exhange that I had with Sonny was below, these were last the words he ever said to me (us) -

09/09/2016 (his Grandads birthday weekend) Me "So how did you get on with your SATS"?

Sonny - "PLEASE don't bother me anymore"

Me - "I'm not bothering you Sonny x I'm your Dad and it's important we sort things out x hope you're ok x "

Sonny - "Just leave me"

Me - "Sonny I'm trying my best to sort things out for you x I spoke with your school today, Miss Cole seems nice - What do you think of the Derby tomorrow then? "

No response

Me - Come on Sonny, as we can't be together with Grandad Ray for the Derby tomorrow give us a prediction - What score do you think?!"

Sonny - "Look PLEASE leave me alone

Me - "Sonny, I love you very much, we all do and we all miss you x we are trying to sort this out in Manchester for you x So come on then, give us your Derby prediction and I'll pass it on to Gradad Ray.

Sonny - " Do you understand what I put?"

Me - "Yes but we're trying to help you x we don't know why you don't want to spend time with us x we only want you yo be happy and to grow up and spend time with the people that love you x come on let's talk football, who wins? x "

Any that was it, they were the last words he ever said to me. Over 3 years since he left and that was what it had come too.

I have sent him many messages since over the years text and email, I never had a response. It would be easy to say that his Mum intercepts them but I don't think that happens, I just think Sonny was conditioned to hate us so ignoring our communication is easy for him.

Naturally, for any parents, grandparents aunties, cousins who have been in this position, it hurts. I've said it before and we will always stand by this - we in no way blame Sonny, this is a classic case of parental alienation - this is the damage that it does.

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