So, the day had finally arrived – Me and Sarah were going to battle it out at great financial and emotional cost in a court room adjudicated by people that didn’t know us or Sonny. What a complete mess it had eroded too. None of this was my choice - In the blue corner the Dad, wanting to see to his son. Wanting his son to have a Dad. Wanting his son to have and Auntie, a Nana a Granddad. And in the red corner, Sarah, Margaret and Ken wanting the opposite. Didn’t want Sonny to

After my initial attempts to get the legal process moving had come to a shuddering halt I was in a really difficult position. In all...

So, whilst I knew from the outset of Sarah becoming pregnant with Sonny would see me in court chasing Sarah for a court order, the reality of it came a bit sooner than I thought it would have done. Sonny was born in Autumn of 2004 and by early 2005 it was game over. As far as Sarah was concerned Sonny was hers and I’d tried everything to keep her on side but solicitors and courts ts was destined to be, I made arrangements to see a solicitor in Manchester, to get everything m

When Sarah and Margaret decided to use Sonny as a pawn there main target was me. What was important for them was that I ever got to see Sonny. As a consequence of that came many other consequences, Parental Alienation is like a virus that spreads, it gets everywhere and has a day to day impact on both the child and the alienated families. The really tragic side of parental alienation is the child doesn't even know they've been subjected to alienation as they've been groomed t

So, as above – who wants to follow rules when it comes to being able to see your son or Grandson. Most people will struggle with it but we have to grit our teeth and get on with it. This is what we had to do. Sarah made it clear to us our relationship with Sonny was going to be strictly controlled from the beginning. Obviously this is not a natural environment to have a positive and loving relationship with a child but this is what we had to accept. When these rules were appl

When Sarah became pregnant, and then what began to unfold over the next few months, was a difficult time. My family was under immense pressure from Margaret to force me to stay in a relationship with Sarah with constant calls telling them what they should forcing me to do. Obviously this was never going to work, Margaret got it wrong and completely misunderstood the type of family we are but that being said, she did cause more problems. My parents really tried to resolve thin

So, I often wonder about the reality of the situation Sarah and Margaret harvested. The manipulation of a child, the leverage of lazy incompetent family courts, the upset, the trauma - parental alienation. Have they ever imagined...... This post dates back to the early 70's and involves my uncle. At the time he was married to his then wife and everything was normal, relationship was fine and they were expecting their first child together. They had a little baby girl (my cousi

Not a very manly thing to say and I've never talked about this to anyone but when you have you child took off you it leaves an emptiness in the pit of your gut. A strange feeling, almost like you can't get your breath, like you can't quite satisfy your breathing, like you're heart is beating irregularly. When I sat to build this post today, it wasn't meant to be this one - there is a long list of post's for upload and this was potentially one of them but I wasn't sure if I co

So, even though my intuition told me it would not be healthy to remain in the relationship with Sarah, during 2004 we did try to work...

The root cause of all the problems we've encountered has a simple answer to it but was never simple to resolve. Like all relationships some are made to last and some aren't - the relationship with Sarah and I just wasn't meant to be. We were together for around 2 and a half years, it stumbled on towards the end but that was basically the time scale. That period also includes the pregnancy with Sonny. We both knew that the relationship had become too fractious and during that

A classic example of Margaret interfering, and her ability to skew the reality of a scenario, was shortly after Sonny was born. Sarah was in hospital resting after the birth and Sonny was with her, she was there for a few days. I was staying at Sarah's house as I naturally hadn't gone back to Manchester. In the day I would spend all day at the hospital and the evening go back to her house. At this point we weren't in a relationship, we were in a strange no man's land. This pa

Grandparental alienation occurs when a parent or guardian prevents grandparents from maintaining a meaningful relationship with their grandchildren, causing emotional harm.

I will begin to document the journey we took through the courts to establish and maintain contact with Sonny. This will be documented over several posts and broken down into various parts. As Sonny's Dad I knew from the very first second that Sarah told me she was pregnant that we would end up in court. Did i think that by the time Sonny was 18 that he wouldn't have spoken to us for nearly 10 years, no I didn't that but what happened at court came as no surprise in how Sarah

Of course they did, or they think they did - They achieved what they set to achieve from the moment Sarah fell pregnant. That being said - it was a hollow victory. Did they get back at me for ending the relationship with Sarah? Yes they did. Did they get back at Sonny's paternal grandparents for not isolating me because they wouldn't force me to stay in the relationship? Yes they did Yep, and that's their victory which I'm sure that gives them a great deal of satisfaction. Ho

Since the day Sonny left I never stopped thinking about him. I think when somebody says this about another person it's hard for that other person to actually get a feeling of what that means. When I was young boy my Dad used to say that everyday when he's at work he'd be thinking about me. I used the think 'why'? I could never understand it - it's only when you become a parent do you think like that. I cannot ever count the amount of times I have woke up at 2am thinking abou

On the 03/02/2022 I sent Sonny an email to his address letting him know about the site. The reason I sent it was that I wanted him to be aware of the site, I thought it was only right. Unsurprisingly he didn't respond, he never does and hasn't to any of our communication since September 2016. That said I'm sure he's got the message about the site which is the most important thing as I didn't want anyone to tell him they had seen it before he was aware. I didn't go into detail

Whether they are ever willing to accept, apologise or admit to their role in the parental alienation between Sonny and his paternal family what's clear is that not at any point from the day Sonny was born have either Margaret or Ken made any attempt to ensure Sonny's relationship with his paternal grandparents wasn't damaged. What will be documented in this section? Their behaviour, some of things they did and said which questions why they may have done this to begin with. Ma

First and foremost I want Sonny to know that I will only be detailing the truth about how his Mum behaved and her actions in the alienation. It will remain factual and correct ensuring clarity for Sonny without subjective emotion convoluting the story. Irrespective of my personal views of Sarah, based on the damaging experience, the post's on this page will detail how I feel Sarah acted in a negligent way in ensuring Sonny didn't have a long term relationship with his paterna

Hello Sonny, It’s Auntie Jo, I hope you're happy and looking forward to soon becoming an adult. We’ve missed you very much over the years and talk about you often. I looked forward to our time together, playing with Cooper, doing little music shows for us. I’d take you for a Happy Meal but you wouldn’t eat it until you were back at the house, sat on Grandad’s knee! We’d also go into M/cr to the City shop. Holidays were great together, you were a lovely little boy. We couldn’t

When I was first told that Sarah was pregnant with Sonny did I think that in 2021 I'd be building a website to tell the truth around the parental alienation we'd have endured by Sarah and her parents? The answer would be no to a website but yes to the parental alienation. Why build a site? The answer is simple. We as his family have been devastated by the effects of what Sarah, and Margaret in particular, did to our relationships with Sonny. Therefore our reputation needs to