After my initial attempts to get the legal process moving had come to a shuddering halt I was in a really difficult position. In all...

So, whilst I knew from the outset of Sarah becoming pregnant with Sonny would see me in court chasing Sarah for a court order, the reality of it came a bit sooner than I thought it would have done. Sonny was born in Autumn of 2004 and by early 2005 it was game over. As far as Sarah was concerned Sonny was hers and I’d tried everything to keep her on side but solicitors and courts ts was destined to be, I made arrangements to see a solicitor in Manchester, to get everything m

When Sarah and Margaret decided to use Sonny as a pawn there main target was me. What was important for them was that I ever got to see Sonny. As a consequence of that came many other consequences, Parental Alienation is like a virus that spreads, it gets everywhere and has a day to day impact on both the child and the alienated families. The really tragic side of parental alienation is the child doesn't even know they've been subjected to alienation as they've been groomed t

So, as above – who wants to follow rules when it comes to being able to see your son or Grandson. Most people will struggle with it but we have to grit our teeth and get on with it. This is what we had to do. Sarah made it clear to us our relationship with Sonny was going to be strictly controlled from the beginning. Obviously this is not a natural environment to have a positive and loving relationship with a child but this is what we had to accept. When these rules were appl

When Sarah became pregnant, and then what began to unfold over the next few months, was a difficult time. My family was under immense pressure from Margaret to force me to stay in a relationship with Sarah with constant calls telling them what they should forcing me to do. Obviously this was never going to work, Margaret got it wrong and completely misunderstood the type of family we are but that being said, she did cause more problems. My parents really tried to resolve thin

So, I often wonder about the reality of the situation Sarah and Margaret harvested. The manipulation of a child, the leverage of lazy incompetent family courts, the upset, the trauma - parental alienation. Have they ever imagined...... This post dates back to the early 70's and involves my uncle. At the time he was married to his then wife and everything was normal, relationship was fine and they were expecting their first child together. They had a little baby girl (my cousi

Not a very manly thing to say and I've never talked about this to anyone but when you have you child took off you it leaves an emptiness in the pit of your gut. A strange feeling, almost like you can't get your breath, like you can't quite satisfy your breathing, like you're heart is beating irregularly. When I sat to build this post today, it wasn't meant to be this one - there is a long list of post's for upload and this was potentially one of them but I wasn't sure if I co

So, even though my intuition told me it would not be healthy to remain in the relationship with Sarah, during 2004 we did try to work...

The root cause of all the problems we've encountered has a simple answer to it but was never simple to resolve. Like all relationships some are made to last and some aren't - the relationship with Sarah and I just wasn't meant to be. We were together for around 2 and a half years, it stumbled on towards the end but that was basically the time scale. That period also includes the pregnancy with Sonny. We both knew that the relationship had become too fractious and during that

I will begin to document the journey we took through the courts to establish and maintain contact with Sonny. This will be documented over several posts and broken down into various parts. As Sonny's Dad I knew from the very first second that Sarah told me she was pregnant that we would end up in court. Did i think that by the time Sonny was 18 that he wouldn't have spoken to us for nearly 10 years, no I didn't that but what happened at court came as no surprise in how Sarah